Who am I without anxiety and trauma?
Do I even know how to exist without them?
When the illusion of one’s identity shatters, a painful questioning of the true self begins.
It is a lonely and misunderstood path to freedom—one that does not come without consequences.
The collapse of everything you once were changes you forever.
Now, you truly understand yourself.
And at the same time, you fear stepping out of your own cage of subconscious fears into your full power.
Because there, inevitably, you find the only true path to healing trauma—the path of Love.
Perhaps not on the day when your own demons visit you again.
But certainly when you surrender to the Higher Power and to your own intuition.
Now, I understand my tree of life—the connection between the earthly and the cosmic.
And I know that I can illuminate the path for traumatised souls only if I unconditionally accept myself.
Draga Tatjana,
ob branju Vrča ljubezni sem večkrat obstala sredi stavka in samo zadihala, marsikaterega večkrat prebrala, da bi se vtisnil v spomin. Že prelet nekaj strani pred samim začetkom branja je nakazoval, da bo to ena tistih knjig, pri kateri stran za stranjo vleče kot močan magnet in pušča za seboj posebno sled. Drži, kot ste zapisali, da zunaj nas ni stebra, ni temelja, kamor bi lahko stopili. V nas samih je. Ta misel ni le močna – je prelomna. In še bolj dragocena postane, ko jo napiše nekdo, ki je moral najprej stopiti skozi lastno razdejanje, da jo je lahko uzrl.
Vaša odločitev, da se soočite s tem, kar leži pod površjem tesnobe, s tistim težkim, zamolčanim, travmatičnim, in to podate z besedami, ki niso ne obupane ne olepšane, temveč pristno človeške, je zame in, tako verjamem, za mnoge druge, darilo. Vaše besede ne zdravijo v stilu čudeža, ampak v slogu resnice. Počasi, po plasteh, od znotraj navzven. In v tem je njihova moč.
Hvala vam zanje. Hvala vam za pogum. Hvala vam za iskrenost. Hvala, ker ste povedali svojo zgodbo – zase, in tudi za vse nas, ki nosimo svojo zgodbo. ♥️ Z veseljem bom knjigo podelila s tistimi, za katere bom začutila, da bi jim lahko ponudila poMOČ.
Z globokim spoštovanjem in hvaležnostjo.
Draga gospa Tatjana, moram vam povedati, da mi je že vaša prva knjiga SKODELICA ŽIVLJENJA dala povsem nov zagon za življenje po infarktu, ko sem zbolela tako fizično kot duševno. Jaz res veliko berem, prebrala sem na stotine knjig, ampak takšnega pečata in osebnega nagovora iz vašega srca in duše nisem doživela še v nobeni knjigi. Zame ste boljša od vseh pisateljev, celo Gabor Mate mi ni dal toliko uidov v moje življenje. Ravno tako moji hčerki.
Ko sem izvedela , da imate novo knjigo, sem jo takoj naročila. Povem vam, vi imate veliko sledilcev kot sem sama, iz srca smo vam hvaležni za vaše knjige, ki so tako posebne, s takšnimi emocijami, vašimi lepimi slikami, zato se zavedajte, da delate za nas in mi vam sledimo. Vaši knjigi imam na vidnem mestu, ker to so knjige za celo življenje. Bila sem v že naši knjižnici in jim povedala, da če si koga želim za predstavitev svoje knjige, ste to vi. Iz srca vam hvala za vaše delo.
I immediately recognised Tatjana as a person with light in her eyes. A person with light in their eyes is someone who has already embarked on the journey within—the seventh direction, as ancient sages call it. She has immersed herself in her depths and allows herself to feel everything. Though she knows this journey is not yet complete, she is no longer afraid to descend into emotions and awareness, for she understands that this is the path to Light, to the Source—one that can only be reached by travelling through oneself. This is the story of a strong woman who courageously embarks on a journey to uncover the root of trauma caused by abuse in her early youth. She tirelessly digs, confronts her past, and peels back the layers of her life, one by one. Tatjana is a heroic knight who, on her descent into darkness, found and rescued little Tatjana. She gave her what she had never received before—she saw her, embraced her, and assured her safety.
Svojo zgodbo se je odločila podeliti z nami, čeprav ve, da se mnogi lahko obregnejo obnjo in se od nje odvrnejo. A zaveda se, kako pomembna je ta pot. Zaveda se, koliko travm je nakopičenih v ljudeh in da je knjiga pravzaprav vodnik, pripomoček pri zdravljenju. Njen terapevt se iz svoje lastne prakse tega povsem zaveda: »No, če boste res dovolj pogumni za izdajo knjige na temo zlorabe, boste pa Slovenijo obrnili na glavo.
The book The Jug Of Love touched me very deeply—it is simply outstanding, and in my opinion, the world needs it. You shine through its pages, so gently and vulnerably, yet at the same time with such courage. I want to humbly thank you on behalf of all of us who have ever struggled with anxiety and overwhelming, destructive emotions. And on behalf of all those who have suffered abuse. Your heartfelt, confessional story will bring comfort to many and serve as a guide on how to climb out of that abyss. And start working with people in every possible way, because this calling will never let you go—it is your greatest life mission. My deepest respect!
Thank you for writing the book The Jug Of Love. With it, you awakened me from the darkness I had been trapped in over the past year. There is also a little girl inside me, full of fears and traumas. You encouraged me to seek help, to open the black box within me, and to face the demons that have been destroying me my whole life. I am truly grateful for your help—you were the only one who truly saw me and helped me, not just through your book but also through our conversation. I admire your courage and strength in revealing and sharing your story with the world, and I equally admire the bravery of your husband. Where I come from, there are so many traumatized women that you cannot even imagine. Yet, everyone keeps telling us that it’s best not to dwell on the past, that life is simply the way it is, and that we should forget everything and move on. That is why you must continue raising awareness about these issues—for the sake of all of us and our children—so that we no longer have to hide behind the seemingly perfect facades of our families.
Ko sem prvič vzela knjigo v roke, nisem pričakovala, da me bo tako močno prevzela. Vsaka stran je nosila težo izpovedi, ki je kljub bolečini napisana z neverjetno iskrenostjo. Med branjem sem občutila mešanico žalosti, sočutja in tudi občudovanja. Čeprav sama še nikoli nisem doživela travme v taki obliki, sem se večkrat zalotila, da razmišljam o tem, kako pogosto ljudje okoli nas nosijo breme, ki ga ne pokažejo navzven.
Njena izpoved me je navdihnila predvsem zato, ker mi odpira oči – zdaj bom lažje prepoznala znake stiske pri ljudeh, ki so mi blizu, in jim bom skušala ponuditi oporo. V tem vidim velik dar te knjige: ni samo zgodba posameznice, ampak vodilo, kako biti bolj pozoren, sočuten in pripravljen pomagati.
Občudujem ljudi, ki so dovolj pogumni, da z javnostjo delijo tako intimne dele svojega življenja. Takšna dejanja zahtevajo ogromno moči, a hkrati omogočajo, da se drugi v njih prepoznajo, najdejo uteho in celo pot do rešitve. Prepričana sem, da bo Tatjana s svojo iskreno izpovedjo nevede pomagala mnogim – in morda nekomu celo rešila življenje. To je največje darilo, ki ga lahko človek pusti svetu.